Mom. How do I sum up in just a few words the life of the woman responsible for making me who I am today?
There are so many life lessons she taught me, both through instruction and by example. She taught me how to treat others and how to know the difference between someone truly in need versus someone wanting to take advantage of me. She taught me how “not” to follow a recipe. She taught me to finish what I start, not that I always do…and to always, no matter what, always, “do as unto the Lord”.
Mom had a rule in life that you couldn’t complain about someone else’s behavior if you hadn’t walked in their shoes. That’s how she came to drive a school bus.
I don’t ever remember a time in my life when Mom didn’t play a vital role. During school, she was my coach and cheerleader. In my young adult life, she helped me set up housekeeping and showed me how to become a strong independent woman. Later, we blended our homes and became sisters and best friends. We often sang “You and me against the world” when we were striving to keep it all together for Daddy, and especially after his passing. We depended on each other for everything – we often joked that we kept each other sane.
When Manny came into the picture, she helped me to adjust to my new role as wife and mother. Sometimes, I would come up to her, hug her and apologize, because only then did I understand the heartaches and disappointments that motherhood held.
She always was concerned that she was too hard on us kids as we were growing up – others had told her that we would grow to hate her for being so strict and we wouldn’t want to be around her. Every time we had the conversation, I always said the same thing…yes, mom, we obviously hate you…look how far away we moved from you! We would then laugh, hug and continue on with whatever we were doing.
Mom had a true passion for life about her that was contagious. I hope one day, people will say that I remind them of her.
Sonja - #3