Bill's Eulogy given by Thomas J. Fallon
As I’m standing here getting ready to read this, all I can hear in my head is Bill saying “just put me in the ground already and go home.” That was typical Bill, never wanting anyone to make a big deal about him.
Growing up with Bill was... interesting to say the least. I was about 6 years old when he first came in the picture 20 years ago. In the beginning I really didn’t know what to call Bill. I mean he was my moms boyfriend, but moms weren’t allowed to have boyfriends, that’s just weird and it seemed strange to call him my step dad. So what had inadvertently happened is that I would call him my Bill and he would call me “Kid”. “No guys, My Bill says I can’t go.” Or “Let me check with My Bill.” My Bill would sit with me after school and help me do my homework.
My Bill taught me how to shave.
My Bill was the one who did pushups with me in the living room when I decided to join the Navy.
My Bill was also the one who didn’t judge my decision to get married, though he wanted the best for me he ultimately accepted I was old enough to make my own decisions. He had his take it easy attitude, one of the many things I got from him, just ask my wife, it drive her crazy that I’m so calm all the time. He didn’t treat me like I was someone else’s kid, he treated me like his actual son. He treated all of us kids as his own. With his health decreasing over the last few years; each surgery or operation seemed like it would be the last. I was lucky enough to be able to call him on the phone and say thank you. “For what”, he had said. “For everything” was all I could say. He made our mother happy, he gave us things that normally would not have been possible and ultimately the most important thing he gave us was a complete family.
Without him I wouldn’t have had a father and I’m grateful that he came into our lives. We have a lot of good times and bad times to remember but looking back now, the bad times were actually him teaching me to be the man that I am today.
As John F. Kennedy once said, “As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.” I can only hope that I was able to not only tell him, but show him how much he meant to me and to all of us.